Laura Markham’s article on the latest research on whether or not to intervene when children argue. We need to give children opportunities to work through conflicts on their own if we expect them tp be independent in this area in the future. But they also need adequate language and skills to deal with conflicts, especially in the early years of interacting with siblings and peers. It’s important for the adult to be aware of when the stronger personality constantly wins out and the softer personality constantly gives in. In these instances, intervention is appropriate. This gives a great opportunity for teaching listening and empathy skills for the strong child, and to encourage the quieter child that speaking up is important, and okay to do.