There’s a phrase that was always tossed around when I was a teacher-in-training: “Children don’t care how much you know, they want to know how much you care.” I always thought this was a great thing to keep in mind as I planned lesson after lesson to “cover” all the important topics. I tried to act on this idea as much as I could, but unfortunately, public school teachers don’t have the structure to provide such necessary attention to their students. I couldn’t show how much I cared without sacrificing the limited amount of time I had to teach the necessary skills. And if the students could not show evidence that they had learned from me, I would be in danger of losing my job. Even though I believed they would have learned much more, if I would have been given enough time to develop a trusting relationship with them first.
I am so grateful to be able to teach at my in-home school where I do have the structure, and the responsibility, to tend to children’s social and emotional development. They will be interested in learning what I know, after they know that I will always be there for them to provide love, care, and support in times of need.
Parents can provide this same support at home knowing that after a busy day at work, and after their child’s busy day at school, the child just wants to be loved. Especially in your child’s early years, make it your priority to develop a strong and trusting bond with your child. The learning will happen, happily and peacefully, in the absence of stress and chaos.